How Do You Show Grace To Someone Who Is Causing Problems?

How do you show grace to someone, what does that look like?

If you have people who are causing problems, persecuting you, attacking you, or intentionally disagreeing with you all the time. You want to find some tangible, act of kindness and goodness that you can overcome this with. Basically, you kill them with kindness and I don’t mean kill their bodies, I just mean you kill that spirit of discord with kindness and tangible acts of love that they don’t deserve.

Should we show grace to someone who doesn’t deserve it?

Romans 5:8 tell us that

but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

None of us deserved what Jesus did for us, but He did it anyway. So while people are sinning against us we need to be overcoming that evil with good.

Showing grace to someone whilst they are mistreating you doesn’t mean that we’re to be a doormat. We don’t have to put up with repeated abuse. You have to set boundaries with those people. Also, if I notice they are repeatedly sowing disunity into a group I am part of I just tell them,

Time out. Have you talked to that person about what you’re talking to me about?

They might say, ‘well, no, I just wanted you to pray with me about it.’

Well, all right, right now, since you have a burden for them, I want to lead us in prayer for them.

If they keep trying to just gossip, walk off from them. You have to set boundaries for people who act in this way. You have to be willing to lose that relationship if they don’t listen to you and then pray for them, don’t give up on them.